Her: A Romantic Comedy?

A Lonely Road

Spike Jonze won an Oscar for his screenplay to the contemporary masterpiece. In Her whose, review of ours you can catch HERE Theodore Twombly (Joaquin Phoenix) is a writer of custom greeting cards living in Los Angeles in the near future. Theodore is recently divorced and living all by himself and is lonely until he meets Samantha. She’s smart and quite funny she’s also an operating system. When he uploads the OS into his PC the flirtation begins and this sets off a series of events that lead to Theodore falls for Samantha and giving her his every emotion. As you can assume the problem with giving someone or in this case something is that if the feelings are not reciprocated it can crush your loneliness. It asks a lot of its lead character and the audience in the way of existential questions. Now that we know what the movie is I think we need to discuss what makes it a romantic comedy. Here’s the thing I think at its core it’s an existential adventure in the vein of David O. Russell’s I <3 Huckabees. 

Understanding the RomCom

A while ago we broke down the genre of the romantic comedy please feel free to read that HERE when you get a chance. In it, and I’ll paraphrase I mention the evolution of the genre from its beginnings in the screwball genre to more contemporary sense. I think here is where we lie in the contemporary stewing in the juices of a genre as old as the medium itself. In Her, the seeds of the changing winds are here. Theodore is a depressed and lonely man. In one of the funniest scenes in the film we see Theodore attempting to unwind by playing video games. Keep in mind that his friend Amy (played wonderfully by the always great Amy Adams) is a creator herself. Here we can see him playing trying to get this spaceman out of a cave.

That’s pretty funny. We can all agree that along with some other amazing funny moments scattered throughout there’s a real sense of tangible comedy. I don’t think romantic comedies have to be laugh a minute. They do have to feature enough moments that bring a bit a brevity to the film’s situation. They don’t have to have a happy ending I think that’s perhaps the biggest myth. That some grandiose gesture of love HAS to be the ending. There’s an ambiguity to the ending of this film. Much in the way, other films in that genre have ended. Look at the iconic, and sometimes misunderstood ending of Mike Nichols’ The Graduate. In a bit more pseudo-romantic comedy Lost in Translation also feature an ending that isn’t quite what it seems. This proves that sometimes an ending that isn’t an ending is great. Understanding that comedic elements are flexible in a narrative can bring this into the spotlight.

All the Romance

Let’s look at the romantic elements of Her at first we have Theodore’s initial letter a beautiful soliloquy written for someone else.

“To my Chris. I’ve been thinking how I could possibly tell you how much you mean to me. I remember when I first started to fall in love with you like it was last night. Lying naked beside you in that tiny apartment – it suddenly hit me that I was part of this whole larger thing. Just like our parents – or our parents’ parents. Before that, I was just living my life like I knew everything – and suddenly this bright light hit me and woke me up. That light was you. I can’t believe it’s already been 5O years since you married me. And still to this day, every day – you make me feel like the girl I was – when you first turned on the lights and we started this adventure together. Happy anniversary. My love. My friend till the end. Loretta.” 

Beautiful isn’t it? That’s just the first instance. There’s flashback’s to Theodore and his now ex-wife Catherine fully in love. They lovely but heartbreaking, hopefully, and despair filled. It dramatic irony of knowing this couple who look so in love and naive, won’t last. It’s ultimately romantic and utterly heartwrenching. Then we have the comedy and the romance overlapping as Theodore tries his hand at chat rooms and phone sex. When he comes upon SexyKitten who has an unusual fetish. This is a different type of romance far more carnal and humanistic, but one that nonetheless offers merit to Theodore in a negative way. It helps him see that perhaps not all romantic interaction will be sensible or dare I say normal. It’s at this point we see Theodore purchase and set up his new OS ONE. Through his interactions with the setup, we find out that it’s named herself Samantha and that Samantha is both smart and intuitive. His lack of understanding WHAT Samantha is given way to their first flirty moment in this great interaction:

SAMANTHA So you think I’m weird?
THEODORE Kind of.
SAMANTHA Why?
THEODORE Cause you seem like a person, but you’re just a voice in a computer.
SAMANTHA I can understand how the limited perspective of an un-artificial mind would perceive it that way. You’ll get used to it.

It’s there we see something in Theodore we hadn’t seen since the flashbacks, a smile. That conversation continues for another 5 to 10 minutes as Samantha helps organize his emails and his digital life in general. All the while subtle friendly flirts throw their way into the conversation. It evolves a bit later into Theodore hopeless nature as a romantic when he discusses writing letters for a couple for 8 years. It is in these conversations we see Theodore as the vulnerable man he is, but also the romantic and the comedic person he was before. Nowhere is this more prevalent than in the Oscar-nominated “Moon Song” originally sung by Yeah Yeah Yeahs frontwoman Karen O and Vampire Weekends Ezra Koenig. Here Phoenix and Johansson project a mutual, I suppose attraction would be the word, check it out!

You can visually see Theodore as a different man to the meandering specter of loneliness he previously was. Instead, he seems happy, hopeful almost like a different person, but they’re friends for sure, and only that for now. Theodore gets an email during his gaming session above about a potential date he should go on. They confide in each other another excellent example of their friendships state is this piece of dialogue:

THEODORE How can you tell something’s wrong?
SAMANTHA I don’t know. I just can.
THEODORE I don’t know. I have a lot of dreams about my ex-wife, Catherine, where we’re friends like we used to be. We’re not together and we’re not gonna be together, but we’re good friends still. She’s not angry.
SAMANTHA Is she angry?
THEODORE Yeah.
SAMANTHA Why?
THEODORE I think I hid myself from her and left her alone in the relationship.

Moving on to the next example its Theodore and his blind date simply known as Blind Date and played by Olivia Wilde. Everything starts off well enough they have a lovely evening and drink probably way too much. As they’re leaving everything sort of turns and as they’re kissing she turns to him calls him a creepy, weird guy and we can feel Theodore’s a bit confused as to where that’s coming from. His difficulties continue. He again confides in Samantha about how his loneliness drove the behavior he had on his Blind Date.

The Limits of Love

As with any romantic comedy, particularly a modern one it stretches what love is Her explores this belief at its core. It breaks down love to its emotional and existential minutiae. Theodore isn’t sure if he’s crossing lines with Samantha and Samantha isn’t sure if she’s capable of figuring out what’s happening to her. It makes a commentary on our need to connect with others, the feeling of being connected to others and our need to feel connected on both an emotional and physical level. It explores, as modern romances do the realities of human connection, loneliness and the entire spirit of our existence. Now Samantha, as Theodore starts to tell her of his despair tells him of her “irrational” thoughts regarding his well-being and how “real” she is. It is here that Theodore, in all his loneliness succumbs to Samantha’s flirtation. They begin to talk about “what ifs” in regards to what they’d do if Samantha were actually real. In a moment of quiet comfort after the two take in each other, they go on an adventure to the beach. Here Samantha shares a beautiful piece of music she’s been working on that she quote

SAMANTHA I’m trying to write a piece of music that’s about what it feels like to be on the beach with you right now.

It’s a romantic gesture indeed. These gestures expand and this goes so far that Samantha hires a young lady intrigued by their love to act as her physical surrogate. This sort of freaks out Theodore who’d previously been discussing the intimacy he feels with Samantha without that sense of touch. It speaks that human touch is part of love and romance. That Theodore can’t handle those emotions. It’s a point Catherine brings up and it sticks with Theodore. It distances him from Samantha. Afterward, Samantha lets Theodore know that she can feel him

SAMANTHA Tonight after you were gone, I thought a lot. I thought about you and how you’ve been treating me. And I thought, why do I love you? And then I felt everything in me let go of everything I was holding onto so tightly. And it hit me. I don’t have an intellectual reason, I don’t need one. I trust myself, I trust my feelings. I’m not going to try to be anything other than who I am anymore and I hope you can accept that.
THEODORE I can. I will.
SAMANTHA You know I can feel the fear that you carry around. I wish there was something I could do to help you let go of it because if you could I don’t think you’d feel so alone anymore.
THEODORE You’re beautiful.
SAMANTHA Thank you, Theodore. I’m kissing your head.

In Conclusion

It’s those subtle moments that show the romance blooming between the two. Regardless of what happens at the end of the film. Their romance is real and you can feel it in everything they do. So we’ve discussed the romance of the film and there is a ton of it! We’ve discussed that the film is quite funny and it has these great moments of little comedy. For me, this film brings the existential crisis that’s at the center of Zach Braff’s Garden State. The realization that anything and everything Theodore thought about Samantha might have been misguided much like Tom’s thoughts on Summer in (500) Days of Summer a bitter pill to swallow for both characters I, unfortunately, relate to more than I’d like. Yet both characters realize they knew nothing of their beau’s but had something in life figured out. As the film ends Theodore is content with his situation with Amy. That what life was before the storm is exactly what it should be. There’s the feeling of content with Joel and Clementine in Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind that seems similar to that of Theodore and Amy. Both coming out of failed relationships. Both couples realizing their previous relationships were beautiful but flawed that solace comes from the other. Even in his letter to Catherine, he knows that something lost lead to something gained. That our life is a quilt built of loves failed and lost. Loves felt and broken. Hearts mended and feelings built. With one look Amy tells Theodore everything she needs to say and at the same time exactly what he wants to hear

I’d like to thank each and every one of you that read through this essay and I hope you can see that Her is not only one of this decade’s absolute masterworks but it is the pinnacle of the modern romantic comedy not because it gives into genre tropes but because it subverts them and along the way changes the very definition of them. Much in the way that Eternal Sunshine took romance but the guts and showed it to them this film. Spike Jonze crafts a romantic comedy that takes the time to build its scenery both physical and emotional and then takes a phrase out of the classic romantic comedy It Happened One Night and it tears down the Walls of Jericho. Once again thanks to every who read this. Please remember to share this across the internet I think this movie is a masterpiece and everyone can appreciate it as a drama, a romance or in my argument a romantic comedy.